Embracing Your Truth

Insights from "The Language of Letting Go"

Mar 04, 2025

I'm grateful for the wisdom found in Melody Beattie's book The Language of Letting Go. Today, I want to share the passage from October 22:

Trust Yourself. Trust what you know.

Sometimes, it can be challenging to stand in our own truth and trust what we know, especially when others attempt to convince us otherwise. Often, these individuals are grappling with their own feelings of guilt and shame. They may have personal agendas or be deep in denial, seeking to undermine our self-trust.

On the surface, it’s easy to agree with conviction. However, when faced with someone else's projections of guilt and shame, applying this wisdom requires us to find a way to hold our ground, without losing ourselves.

We don't have to forfeit our truth or power to others; that is the essence of codependency. Believing in lies can be dangerous. When we stop trusting our instincts and question our feelings, we inflict harm on ourselves and our well-being.

Dismissing the part of ourselves that knows the truth cuts us off from our center, leading to feelings of confusion and self-doubt. It's crucial to remember that while we can be wrong, we are not always wrong.

How can someone else's words so easily devalue our truth? It's vital to sift through the noise and recognize that their words often reflect their issues, not ours.

Feel Your Emotions

Allow yourself to feel whatever arises—anger, sadness, confusion. It’s okay to experience that initial rush of emotions. Instead of reacting impulsively, reach out to a friend rather than the person who hurt you. Remember, retaliating is a reaction; responding thoughtfully takes courage.

Take a moment to breathe and center yourself:

Be open. Stand in your truth. Trust what you know. Refuse to buy into denial, nonsense, or coercion that seeks to derail you.

It’s interesting how fiction can sometimes feel more weighty than reality. Yet when we pause and find our ground, we can shift our perspective. Just because someone presents their words as truth doesn’t make them so.

Process and Reflect

Give yourself the time to process their words. This might take minutes, hours, or even days. Allow yourself to take the time you need. Once you feel centered, you can choose a response that aligns with your truth and supports your well-being.

Today, I will trust my truth, my instincts, and my ability to ground myself in reality. I will not be swayed by bullying, manipulation, or dishonesty.

Choosing to pause and gain perspective enables us to respond rather than react. Once you release your initial investment in the words spoken, you reclaim your emotional space and respect your truth.

Engaging in dialogue to change someone else's mind often keeps you trapped in their vortex of control. Instead, focus on nurturing yourself.

Practice Lovingkindness

a stack of rocks sitting on top of a rocky beach — Photo by Rob Wicks on Unsplash

Hold space for them.

Although it may not be your instinct, doing so helps refuel your emotional tank without diminishing anyone else. This practice may take time, but consciously releasing the hold they have on you in favor of peace empowers you.

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