You've touched on so many soft points in this post. I don't think grief ever becomes irrelevant, no matter how many years pass. It sure as hell better not because grief has shaped into the woman I am right now. And she's light years away from the woman I was 5 years ago.
My son also died suddenly "accidentally" (the official word they used). There is NO normal life after never getting to say goodbye.
I lost my husband — out-of-the-blue suddenly (and not by suicide, just to be clear) when I was 48. That was 23 years ago, and I think the story and what I learned in the aftermath has a lot to offer others. As you point out, grief is universal and completely personal. So kudos to you for writing it — you probably couldn't have done so with as much perspective and articulation as the intervening time has allowed you.
Sometimes I can't either, and I imagine there are times when you feel the same way about your experience. The main thing is that we've gotten through it. Hugs.
Your reflections have great impact. Honoring your process.
I appreciate you!
You've touched on so many soft points in this post. I don't think grief ever becomes irrelevant, no matter how many years pass. It sure as hell better not because grief has shaped into the woman I am right now. And she's light years away from the woman I was 5 years ago.
My son also died suddenly "accidentally" (the official word they used). There is NO normal life after never getting to say goodbye.
I'll talk about grief with anyone, any day.
Owning our journey is an important part of Grief being a part of our life.
Thank you so much Kristi!
I lost my husband — out-of-the-blue suddenly (and not by suicide, just to be clear) when I was 48. That was 23 years ago, and I think the story and what I learned in the aftermath has a lot to offer others. As you point out, grief is universal and completely personal. So kudos to you for writing it — you probably couldn't have done so with as much perspective and articulation as the intervening time has allowed you.
Yes, grief is universal while being an individual experience.
Jan, I mean this sincerely when I say, I can’t imagine what you went through.
Thank you for sharing.
Sometimes I can't either, and I imagine there are times when you feel the same way about your experience. The main thing is that we've gotten through it. Hugs.